40 things before I’m 40

I realise I’m not the first person to do this, and nor will I be the last. But I suppose what’s a bit different is that most of the time these lists start on a 39th birthday. I turn 34 in May.

It’s something I’ve been jotting down for a while now on one of my many notebooks dotted around the house. After a conversation with a friend who’s starting her list on her 39th birthday in few weeks time (her blog coming soon) I thought I’d make my list a bit more official and publish on my blog as there’s things that are going to happen this year that are on my list. (Is that cheating?)

I don’t actually turn 40 until May 2020 and although that sounds ages away I know it’ll be here before I know it. I’m usually someone who leaves things to the very last minute so for once I am going to do this with plenty of time to complete.

So here’s my list so far of my 40 things to do before I’m 40-
(there will be 40 eventually, I’ll add as I think of more!)

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1. Take part in The Great North Run
I used to run long distances in my teens and early twenties. I was no superstar but I enjoyed it. During that time I always said one day I would do a marathon but to date that has never happened. A few years back I decided I would attempt the Great North Run to ease myself in. I have gained a place and I am going to be running this in September 2014.
✔️ 7th September 2014 – DONE

2. Visit Dubai
For years Dubai has been top of our “To Visit” list. We have a friend that lives there & we’ve been promising to go visit for a while. We hope it lives up to all our expectations and we aim to find out very soon – DONE!!

3. Study & gain a qualification
I haven’t narrowed down the subject yet. I have two main ones and a couple of others floating around my mind. The main one is Psychology with a view to becoming a counsellor. The other is bookkeeping / accountancy as I thought the job opportunities it could provide me with would be good.

4. Start in employment again – part time
I was made redundant when pregnant with our first child. It was probably a blessing as I’d have probably gone back to work if I hadn’t and missed out on being a stay at home mum. It’s now 4 years and 3 months since I last had paid employment. I have looked into going back to work but by the time I paid a childminder I’d have nothing left. So once the girls are both at school (September 2017) I will seek employment. What depends on number 3. I suppose!

5. Have a weekend away with my husband – child free
I think I’ve only spent 4 nights away from my eldest in her 3 years & 9months of living and no nights from my youngest who is now 14months. Hopefully one day my husband and I can go off somewhere for a couple of nights leaving the girls in Nanny’s care.

6. Take part in a London Marathon
Just the natural step after completing number 1. right?!! I know there are other marathons but London is the most prestigious. – (I got my name in the ballot for 2015. Find out October ’14 if I get a place)

UPDATE – 1st October 2015 – I got my place & will be running on 26th April 2015

✔️ 26th April 2015 – DONE!

7. Have a touristy few days in London seeing all the sights
I have been to London. Many, many times. I’ve even been inside Buckingham Palace but I really want to do it all again – The Palace, Tower of London, Houses of Parliament, Tower Bridge, Trafalgar Square, Covent Garden, Harrods, Selfridges, London Eye………….

8. Join the PTA at the girls’ school
Bit of a weird one but those that know me will know that being part of the PTA would suit me down to the ground.

✔️ September 2015 – DONE!

9. Move house
I think this is a bit of an ambitious one if I’m honest. It could happen, but it might not. I’d like to think we’d move one day but whether it’ll happen before 2020 I don’t know, but for now it’s on the list.

10. Have a “make up lesson” and make more of an effort with my appearance
The only time I wear makeup is on special occasions. I don’t need to put any on before leaving the house. I never have really. Think part of it is laziness, but part of it is I don’t really know what suits me. When I say make up lesson I mean one of those counter things in a department store or something similar where I then know what to use (and costs me a fortune!)

11. Do some volunteer work
I don’t know what, or when, but everyone should do a bit in their life shouldn’t they? Mainly inspired by our friend who spends one day of her weekend helping out various causes.

12. Give blood
I’m registered but I’m yet to donate. I used to hate injections and giving blood but by the end of my second pregnancy I’d happily watch them stick the needle in.
✔️ DONE – 14th July 2015

13. Take the girls to watch football with Daddy (at Emirates to see Arsenal)
How dare I say this as a Manchester United fan?! But I know how happy it would make my husband. And Taylor’s first ever match was at Old Trafford, only fair Lauren’s is an Arsenal one.

14. Hold a dinner party with friends
We used to see friends and invite them round a lot but it hasn’t happened for a long time. It’d be fun to have friends round and cook for them.

15. Have a drunken night out with friends
I honestly cannot remember the last time I was drunk. I don’t really drink. I’ll have a glass of fizz at Christmas but for best part of 5 years that’s all I’ve had. When I go out with friends I drive. So a mental night out drinking should be on the cards.

16. Have a family day out at a theme park I don’t know which one because eldest will just be about to turn 10 when I turn 40, but a good family fun day out on rides is what I’d like.

17. See a musical in London
Broadway would be more exciting but there’s no way I’m getting to New York in the next 6 years, so London it will have to be! Can’t decide which one yet

18. Go on a proper shopping trip with my mum with plenty of money to spend!
I do go shopping with mum but we’ve never been on a trip where we just go for nothing in particular but end up with lots, with a nice lunch in the middle. Would have to be a city…..

19. Go ice skating
2001 at an ice skating rink in Dundee I fell and displaced my kneecap. Had it been a time of camera phones I’d no doubt have a photo to insert here, but you’ll just have to imagine being in a toilet cubicle and pulling down your jeans to see that your right kneecap is on the left hand side of your knee, not in the middle where it should be. Safe to say I haven’t skated since……. But I should.

20. Complete a cross stitch
When I visited my aunt in New Zealand in 1998 I bought several cross stitch kits. My aunt is very good at cross stitches and I think I wanted to emulate her skills. I still have those kits unopened. I really should complete one.

21. Read this book list
I’ve compiled a list of 40 books from recommendations of others that I should read. I will blog about The Book List as I read on my side blog which can be found here

22. Visit every house I’ve lived in
I was googling 40 things before 40 and have pinched this idea from Slummy Single Mummy I have only lived in 4 houses in my life; 2 of which are local, the other two; one is in Essex, one in Portsmouth. It’ll be fun going to see them.

23. Grow a plant and not kill it (added 27.2.14)
After sharing my blog post on Twitter, my friend was inspired to write her own list. One of hers is this so I pinched it but we’ve now decided we are going to buy the same plant at same time and see who last longest!

24. Go Nessy hunting
(added 28.3.14)
I’ve always wanted to go to Loch Ness and look for Nessy. Yes, I know, it’s most probably not real and if she really does exist it’s unlikely I will see her but I still want to go.

25. Go to Bingo
(added 30.4.14)
I’ve never been and played proper Bingo in a Bingo Hall. I’ve always thought it’d become quite addictive but I imagine with a group of friends it could be quite fun. So off to Bingo I go!

26. Go sit in the viewing gallery at court for the day
added 11.6.14
Knowing my luck I’d get a load of boring cases but I’d love to see the court at work

27. Go to Ladies Day at the races added 2.7.14
Preferably at Ascot but would settle for one of the others. Would have to be done with group of friends and us all doing it properly with posh dresses & hats!

28. Do a ghost tour / overnight stay added 27.7.14
It would freak me out – and yes they are most probably all just set up for entertainment purposes but I’d still like it!

29. Attend pole dancing classes added 28.7.14
Where I go to my boxercise classes, the instructor also does pole dancing classes. I keep wanting to have a go but am nervous! I will do it soon!
I did a pole dancing session for my hen night and loved it, so should love the classes too

30. Watch 40 films suggested by friends (added 28.7.14)
I asked my friends what the film is that they think everyone should watch and is the one that they say “you’ve never seen that film?”
So my 40 list is here

31-40 to be added

As I aim to blog as I complete tasks and hopefully there’s 40 big ticks on here by the time the next 6 years, 2months and 17 days have passed.

The Book List – Compiled

I wrote a post the other day asking for suggestions of books that people consider “must reads” I also asked on Twitter and Facebook.

I took the first 40 suggestions and these are listed below. These are books I must read before 2020 as part of my “40 things to do before I’m 40” (that list coming soon)
Where a series has been suggested I have just included this as one entry on the list. I won’t necessarily read them in the order listed.

1. Jane Eyre
2. Gone with the Wind
3. To Kill a Mockingbird
4. 19 minutes – Jodi Picoult
5. Catcher in the Rye
6. Hunger Games Trilogy
7. Memoirs of a Geisha
8. The Book Thief
9. Catch 22
10. One flew over the cuckoo’s best
11. The curious incident of the dog in the night
12. Wuthering Heights
13. Nelson Mandela’s autobiography
14. Danny Champion of the World
15. The TimeWaster letters
16. Pride and prejudice
17. Dracula
18. Rebecca
19. Frankenstein
20. The Rats – James Herbert
21. Bravo Two Zero – Andy McNabb
22. Harry Potter series
23. The Alchemist
24. A thousand splendid Sun’s
25. Midnight’s children
26. Love in time if cholera
27. The Secret Garden
28. Purple Hibiscus
29. Google Whack
30. The Thirteenth Tale
31. How to have a Brilliant Life – Michael Heppell
32. A town like Alice
33. The Railway Man
34. Mr Stink
35. Black Beauty
36. The Wedding Girl
37. The Two of Us: My Life with John Thaw
38. Enid Blyton – Faraway Tree & Wishing Collection
39. Me before you – Jojo Moyes
40. The Bible

I’ve managed to download some of the above on to my Kindle for free, so may start with them first. I’ll be looking at the library to borrow some too rather than buy them all.

I’ve set up a blog here to run along side this one to post as I read each book

If I were……

A month – I’d be May. The time of year everything starts to feel brighter and warmer.

A country I’d be Italy. Strong family values, good cooking and hardworking with pretty aspects.

A time of day – I’d be lunchtime. Halfway through the day with energy levels at a steady pace, motivated for the rest of the day

A sea animal – I’d be a dolphin. Intelligent, playful and stick with their family.

A direction I’d be North. So I’m always facing South.

A liquid – I’d be ice cold Coca Cola in a glass bottle. A refreshing treat.

A gemstone – I’d be Tsavorite. Beautiful, unusual and uncommon.

A tree – I’d be a Monkey Puzzle tree. Intriguing and difficult to conquer.

A game – I’d be Guess Who? Takes lots of questions and answers to discover the true identity.

A famous painting – I’d be the Mona Lisa. Intriguing, unobvious beauty, known by many.

A flower – I’d be a daffodil: Bright and seen as a sign that good things are coming.

A kind of weather – I’d be the mix of sun & rain that combines to make a rainbow

A musical instrument – I’d be a piano. Hard to learn how to play, but can be beautiful in the right hands.

A piece of furniture – I’d be a settee. One size suits all, sees many emotions, comfortable and an important part of the home.

A colour – I’d be Purple.My favourite colour.

A means of transportation – I’d be a plane. Goes long distance, fairly reliable, sky´s the limit.

An emotion – I’d be happiness. Positive and smiling,

A fruit – I’d be an Apple. Juicy, tasty, popular and can be used in many dishes !

A sound – I’d be laughter. Makes everyone smile.

A vehicle – I’d be a taxi. There when you need them (if sometimes a tad late).

A place – I’d be the house my Nan & Grandad had as I grew up. Full of memories, comforting, familiar, full of laughter and family orientated.

A taste – I’d be warm bread & butter. Simple, comforting and tasty

A scent – I’d be that lovely smell you get when it’s been a really warm day & it starts to rain.

An animal – I’d be a lion. Strong, proud, protective of its own.

A random object – I’d be journal / notebook / diary – full of thoughts, emotions and memories.

A body part – I’d be the heart. Integral to living. Full of love. Needed by all.

A song – I’d be Love Machine by Girls Aloud. Catchy, lively, gets into people’s heads.

An item of clothing That big, fluffy jumper that makes you feel warm and comfy.

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My running shoes are on…..

It’s 29 weeks until I’ll be lining up in Newcastle with thousands of others to take part in running 13.1 miles. (I’m told the .1 is very important to add!) So that makes it 32 weeks until I’m battling through the Spartan Race. Crazy challenge right?

Today I went on my first run around my village. Mad of me after a horrendous boxercise class yesterday which concentrated on legs and I’d doubled up on sets due to there being an odd number of us there!

You have to bear in mind the last time I did any sort of long distance running was probably about 10 years ago, so pre both my babies, and I’m not clocking up anything close to the 3 minute mile!

Using the Nike Run App on my iPhone it shows me that I “ran” 2.66km and it took 16 minutes 38 seconds. I ran solidly for the 1st km, fast walked for 300m, then ran for the rest.

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I’m feeling good about it. I know my timing today is laughable but now I have something to beat and keep me determined. So that’s my first run in the bag and it can only get better right?!

What have I let myself in for?

In April 2013, 4 months after having my second daughter, and the baby weight still firmly round my middle I joined a local class – – The Vibe. I was apprehensive at first joining a new class on my lonesome, but from the first session I knew I’d like it (even though I couldn’t walk properly for 5 days!). Run by the lovely Lizzie and attended by a variety of women from young to old(er) it’s a good laugh as well as good exercise. Anyway I digress.

I signed up to a 12 week challenge and in that time I lost 10.25lbs and a total of 10.75 inches. Looking and feeling much better with myself, and having seen some of the group have a great time entering The Spartan Race I registered myself as part of The Vibe team to participate in September 2014. It was totally unlike me and the idea of running through mud is something that makes me cringe, but I felt it would be something to aim for and to keep my motivation up.

Then came the discussion with my brother. For the last couple of years we had spoken about doing the Great North Run in 2014 so in January we entered the ballot. Yesterday we were both told we had been unsuccessful and we were both genuinely disappointed.

And then came the twist of fate……

One of the girls I train with at The Vibe has recently announced her pregnancy, and typically she yesterday she heard she had been given a place to run in the Great North Run, which is a matter of weeks after the due date of her little one.
A few emails exchanged between her and the officials and before you know it her place has been officially changed to me!!

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I am thrilled and petrified. I have never done anything like this in my life and now I’m running a half marathon and then a 5k Spartan race which has 15 obstacles in the space of 21 days.

Best start going out on those runs and get training! Any tips and advice will be greatly appreciated!

What on earth have I done?!!!!

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A photo of us – Blog everyday in August

Tonight I have seen on Yummy Mummy In Training’s blog – a blog every day in August challenge.

As I am trying to catch that blogging bug I thought I’d give it a go using her prompts list.

I missed yesterday as I’ve only seen it tonight so I have jumped straight to day 2 which is “A Photo of Us”. (I’ll possibly do Day 1 at the very end)

I am very rarely in photos. I take loads every single day of our girls, scenery, funny things I see, the dog, etc. but one of a few things that make me sad is that we have very few photos with me in.

Our youngest daughter was born 7 and a half months ago on 19th December and the only photo I have of us is this one

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This photo was taken the evening Lauren was born, during visiting hours.
Whilst I am in my PJs, looking knackered and nowhere near my best this photo makes me very happy every time I look at it.

Our eldest daughter was (and still is) going through a stage where she will not pose properly for a photo so I love the way that she is looking directly at the camera which is being held by my mum.

My husband and I are both knackered but deliriously happy that we have brought another healthy, beautiful baby into the world together.

I am going to now make it my mission to have a nice photo of the four of us taken together before the end of the month. I don’t know where or when but I’m determined to get it done. And I aim to be in more photos myself as if we go away I am always the one behind the camera so it never looks like I’ve been to these places!